While at that emotional time of the month I had a heart to heart talk with my husband.
One thing I shared was that I felt little validation for what I'm doing: homeschooling and mothering I feel our alternative homeschooling lifestyle and my choice to leave my career to be home to raise my kids is not valued by society. I said if I were to go look for a job now it is likely that I'd not be of interest due to the gap in my employment, despite holding numerous volunteer positions including some that required more project management and people management skills than my former career did. I said I had many worthwhile skills that employers would want but they'd probably judge me negatively just because I've been at home in these years. And probably some people would call me a loser for doing what I do.
I also said that I'm sick of feeling judged by our society as doing something weird, homeschooling, plus even being a mother at home is now considered strange or seen as negative or not worthy of admiration.
My husband came out with this reply, "You are making a mistake looking for people in America, in this culture, to compliment you on what you are doing. You are doing something noble and worthy, raising two kids who are turning out to be nice good people who can actually think. The way (our ten year old) son was doing (skip) counting math using all different numbers last night while we played (the board game) Risk was amazing. I've never seen a kid add up all different numbers like that so fast and accurately. And look at what people in our society think about and talk about: they actually spend time talking about Jennifer Lopez's ass! That's what they care about: what her ass looks like! So if you are looking for THOSE people to pat you on the back and say you are doing a great job you are looking in the wrong place. You'll never get that from them. All that matters is what I think and what you think. What we think about our own kids is all that matters. That had better be good enough for you because that's all you are probably ever going to get. Stop looking for validation from strangers and even relatives, our neighbors and even your friends. I know what you are doing is right and best and that's all that should matter."
He's right, you know.
But still I feel better knowing some of you out there would validate what I'm doing it as you are also homeschooling and you know it's a worthy thing to do.
P.S. If you don't believe my husband that's what some people talk about and care about just do a YouTube search on those keywords and you can view many user created compilations of that specific topic.