Two Kindergarten boys were caught giving each other oral sex in the public school bathroom; see news article dated 4/19/05.
I hope they are investigating if these children have been sexually abused. Taking part in a sexual act at a young age is one indicator that a child has been sexually abused (and therefore that is how they learned about that act and why they think it is okay to participate in the same act with other people). I feel sad about these two children and hope if one or both had been abused that they get the counseling they need to prevent future problems psychologically as well as to stop them from taking part or coercing other children into sexual acts (in essence, sexually abusing other young children).
As to the solution the school proposed about having a teacher accompany children to the bathroom, this does not seem feasible to me. Perhaps they could hire bathroom attendants. When I was in high school in the 1980s we had a “matron” who patrolled the bathrooms. She was a little old lady who was tough as nails. She kept the bathrooms clean but also was watching to see if anyone was putting graffiti on the stall walls and to make sure no one was smoking in the bathrooms. We were all afraid of her.
Thinking of monitoring the children, this goes back to the school bus issue. I wonder if this school district wonders if a sexual act could happen on the bus. Maybe they should get bus monitors as well. It is typical that a school/town will make a policy in reaction to an incident; it is always reactionary rather than precautionary. When my husband was a child, a school bus ran over a student, killing the student. The policy was changed to have a school bus monitor on every bus, whose job it is to watch out for every child leaving the bus and to make sure that the driver doesn’t run them over. Over 20 years later, and the town still has this policy in place.
Child Sex Abuse Prevention
A great book about preventing sexual abuse of our children is “Protecting the Gift : Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane)” by Gavin de Becker. This book focuses on using and trusting our intuition as parents, and teaching the child to listen to their own intuition, to prevent abuse. Other safety measures are included as well, such as common behaviors of pedophiles. Signs of sexual abuse are given and the author begs us to not be in denial if we notice these signs in our children. Every parent should read this book when their children are very young, since the age at which most children start being sexually abused is age three.